Facebook – The good, the bad and the ugly

I knew this was coming. I kept telling myself sweet white lies, but deep down there was just no denying it. Facebook had to go.

So there you have it.

“But why?” you ask, and here’s what’s behind my disappearance from facebook: It didn’t work for me. In fact, it worked against me.

Don’t get me wrong. I loved facebook. It was fun. I kept in touch with friends and family the easy way. I met so many nice people, some of whom also became my friends. I love all of them dearly. I shared in their ups and downs and felt deeply connected to them. I still do.

I laughed at the jokes my friends shared with me, and drooled over the pictures of their children and grandchildren. I engaged in many a discussion and learned ever so much. I followed links to recipes, DIY tips, scientific articles and whatnot, and frankly, I could spend 48 hours a day on facebook and still not get bored for even one single minute. Forty-eight hours a day, my friends! Consider that for just a moment.

Then there was the house that needed my attention, the writing that never got done, and my family that did not get all the loving care I should have given them. Oh, of course I made sure there was good, nutritious food on the table. Usually. I’d help my girls with their college assignments when they needed my help. I’d give them a hug when they needed one. I’d even make them hot chocolate… But I wasn’t there. Not really. My thoughts were too often on facebook.

That’s not good. In fact, that’s a pretty ugly truth, and the only way to get rid of that ugliness was to deactivate my facebook account. Apparently, I’m just not disciplined enough to balance facebook with my real life.

The funny thing is, once I decided facebook had to go, it was easy. I deactivated my account and never looked back. So far.

It’s been a week or so, and I haven’t missed it. Not one moment. I’m out there in the Real World now, enjoying my new-found freedom.

Will I ever return to facebook?

I don’t think so. In my way of thinking, minimalism – or at least the kind of minimalism I’m aspiring to achieve – and facebook don’t go together well. The internet and my kind of minimalism don’t mix well, so it’s not just facebook that went out of the window.

I may or may not keep this blog. For now, I think I will, as I hope it will motivate me to get rid of the STUFF and live with just the things I love and need.

Will you continue to follow my journey?


About Liam

Poet, writer, aspiring minimalist
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2 Responses to Facebook – The good, the bad and the ugly

  1. Leah says:

    Hugs back to you, Susan. I shall keep trying to give you food for thought as often as I can.


  2. Susan says:

    Thought provoking post Leah, I was wondering what had happened to you! I feel you have made a very wise move. Of course I will continue to follow your journey – why would I stop reading such an interesting life story? You always give me food for thought and I am especially interested in your shopping expeditions whether it be to charity or food shops. Love all of your writing. Hugs from me.


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